Impatience

During our first home offer, the listing agent lied to us and said his partner was out of town (the listing agent and a lawyer owned the home as a business together). He held our offer for a week while we impatiently waited for an answer on a home we loved. The listing agent/seller wanted to see our pre-approval letter from the bank and also wanted to see the amount we were approved for. Well, we didn’t think that was a good idea, because then he could counter-offer us at our full approval amount, right? We had a letter drafted from the bank showing we were approved for the amount offered on the home, which we submitted, I believe, on a Monday. Deadline to approve was Wednesday. Seller stated his partner would not return until Thursday. Then, it was he didn’t have time to look at our offer on Thursday, so he would on Friday. Then, there was another excuse saying they would not be able to look at our offer until Monday because they were just too busy. Monday rolls around and they accept a contingency offer believing we could not offer more on the home because of our pre-approval letter we sent. The went out of legal contract. They lied to us and our realtor and they took a loss because we had no home to sell. There would not have been any home contingency with us. We were soooo disappointed. On bright side, we discovered that the grain elevator nearby would have been horrid for my Celiac Disease and we were lucky not to get the home. God knows!

Our second offer was on another home we fell in love with. The home was listed just under our pre-approval amount. Perfect. Our realtor scheduled the showing and the seller upped the price of the home over $20,000 after we requested a showing. What? Yep. We still offered on the home to our full pre-approval amount and asked to stop any further updated to the home. They also held our offer until way after contract date to respond and then finally rejected the offer. We felt defeated.

We went back to another home we truly liked and spent an entire hour in the home going over every nook and cranny. Came home and reviewed all the photos. Talked about how much we really liked this house. Went to call our realtor to have her put in the offer, and she had emailed us that the house literally “just went into foreclosure a few hours ago” – basically while we were at the showing in the house. We did finally figure out how to get an offer to the bank, but they have had that offer for three weeks now with no response at all.

Since then, we have found asbestos in a home and been outbid on a home. Nothing like showing up for an open house and seeing 15 cars there. Four offers were submitted the day the home was available for showing, which included ours. We even wrote a love letter to the sellers. Since the home was handicap accessible it made sense for our family. No luck. They accepted another offer.

There comes a time when we feel like you are losing. You are fighting a battle you just cannot win. While we are waiting on offers to respond, other homes we like are getting accepted offers on them and are off the table. It’s devastating.

Wayne feels like giving up. Maybe we aren’t supposed to live in our area? But, I say God brought us here all the way from across the country for a reason. He delivered a job and a rental with our two dogs, all within two weeks time. It was a miracle. I don’t think we are not supposed to be here. I think we just haven’t found our house yet.

You see, there is something we always have to remember. It’s not our decision and on our time. It’s His will and on His time. Just because we want to find a house right now so we don’t have to worry about it anymore since our lease is up the end of May, doesn’t mean He delivers it to us when we want it like a parent who would give into a spoiled child having a temper tantrum. It doesn’t work that way. He have to be patient. We have to have faith.

Faith is knowing that our Father knows what we need. We are not to pray for what we need and I don’t. I always say, “If this house is the one, let it be. If not, let your will be done.” Faith is knowing that our Father sees the beginning and the end. That He has a plan for us. That He knows which home is the right one for us and it will happen when He sees fit. His Will will be done, on time, but on His time. We perform our duty to go about looking for the right home and He will provide the right one for us, putting us right where He wants us, where we need to be. We must not get discouraged. We must not be impatient. I feel being impatient and discouraged is a lack of faith. If you are feeling that way, you are not putting 100% of your faith in your Father to provide for you.

Philippians 4:19 And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus.

Matthew 6:25 “Therefore I tell you, do not be anxious about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink, nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing?

Matthew 6:32-33 For the Gentiles seek after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them all. But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.

Psalm 37:4 Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.

Amen. God Bless You!

Let us know what you think about impatience and faith in the comments below.

(UPDATE:  I was totally wrong.  We were not supposed to be here.  Six months of house searching and seven failed offers later, my husband accepted an offer for a job out of state.  We packed up and headed to the desert southwest and made a home purchase there.  You never know what God has in store for you.  And, what you are thinking, can be totally wrong.  Our Father knows what is best for us.  He is a good father.)